The Zen of anxiety part I: how to stay centred during an attack

The Zen of Anxiety

Written by Trish

Within a blink of an eye, I am in a state of panic.  I am acutely aware of every sensation igniting in my body and every thought growing with the intention of consuming my mind.

I am trying to suffocate the jittery flames in my stomach by pulling it tight.  I feel the gnawing burn eroding my solar plexus; the beating of my heart that suddenly spasms into strong thumps, to then resume its rapid pace; and the sensation that my feet are no longer on the ground as the room slowly begins to swirl.

Lights become blinding.  Sounds becoming deafening.  I breathe in short sputters; with each shallow inhale I taste the smell of each body in the room as it drifts into my tummy in a wave of nausea.  Every muscle is tense, trying to hold back the onslaught of stimuli assaulting my senses and breaking through the weak defenses in my mind.

My mind is shouting at me: don’t I recognize this feeling?  I’m in trouble.  I need to get out of here NOW if I want to survive.

At lightning speed my mind bursts through every scenario that would take me far away from this threatening situation.  At the same time I am telling myself to get a grip; I am stronger than this; I will embarrass myself if I just get up and run; I should be able to handle this by now; why aren’t the meds kicking in?

My survival instinct senses my resistance and I suddenly become hyper-vigilant to my body’s message of danger.  At this point the buzzing in my ears from my blood pressure dropping is a sure sign that this is not going to end well.  I have to get away from this terror that has overtaken me.  In my desperation I decide to get out.

I lunge toward the door and I make it out of the room without falling.  Though their faces are a blur, I can feel their eyes staring at my back.  Will one of them follow me?  Try to force me back into the room with their talk of hurt and pain?

With laser-like focus on my point of safety, I stagger out of the building to my car.  Trembling, I get in and grip the steering wheel.

I think to myself: “Man, group therapy is a bitch!”

In my defense for swearing Mom, I did say “excuse me” before I left.

This is the play-by-play of an anxiety attack I had late last summer.  It was a real turning point because I was at a point in my recovery where I could observe everything I was going through during the attack and recall it later.

I took the opportunity to dissect my feelings, thoughts, and actions before, during, and after the attack.

What I discover was a philosophy on anxiety and a practice to apply to my attacks.

This is what I really want to share with you today.

How an anxiety or panic attack starts

The mind is everything. What I think I become. ~ Buddha

You think of your anxiety as attached to certain triggers; a social situation, spiders, a small space, visiting the dentist.  Again and again these situations set your anxiety off into some form of an attack.  You learn to avoid them.

It is valuable to consider the thoughts about the feelings you have associated with these triggers.  Perhaps you were once thoroughly embarrassed in a group setting and you never want to experience that feeling again.  Every time you visit the dentist you experience pain and you hate pain, especially when you know it’s coming.

The thoughts of resistance to our unwanted feelings create the anxiety.

Like the calm before the storm, we spend our quiet time thinking about every situation and nuance that could go wrong, causing us to feel our past unwanted feelings.  When we least expect it, these thoughts become real and we get anxious.

How does this happen?

Since we have anticipated every awful outcome that will bring on our unwanted feelings, we are subconsciously on guard for a situation that might activate them.  When we find one (and we always do), our memory triggers the associated thoughts and our unwanted feeling(s).

Bingo!

In a few short seconds our thoughts curse our feeling(s), in our desperation to stop it we resist, and our fear intensifies because our efforts are futile.

We experience an attack.

 

What to do during an attack; a Zen-like practice

Chaos is inherent in all compounded things. Strive on with diligence.~ Buddha

 

You are suddenly hit by a wave of primal fear and there is no wild boar about to leap the short distance between you with the intent of taking off your arm.

You are having an attack.

What do you do to stay centred?

Note:  if you are in a situation where a wild boar is about to attack, forget about being centred…. RUN!  Or is it don’t run?  I don’t know–just don’t put yourself in a situation where there are wild boars!

Step 1: Give yourself permission to feel the way you do.  Recognize you are feeling anxious and it is perfectly normal.  Tell yourself: “It’s okay to feel really anxious.”

Step 2: Concentrate on your body.  What sensations are rising?  Stay with the sensations.  This will immediately put you in the present moment.  They may increase in intensity which will make you feel more anxious but stay with them anyway.  This is hard work because you will want to judge these sensations and resist them.  If you find yourself judging, redirect your focus to your sensations.

Step 3: Relax into your sensations.  Yield to what you are feeling.  As you relax, you are sending a signal to your mind and body that everything is okay.  Stay focused on relaxing into your sensations and letting them be.  Again, this is where you want to do your best not to judge and resist.

Step 4: By this point, your mind has gone haywire with the worst possible scenarios, fueling your need to escape immediately.  Because you are well into your attack, your mind will now be focused on the most predominant worst case scenario which you will easily be able to pick out.  Observe what this scenario is.

While staying relaxed, you want to question its absolute viability from all angles.  You ask yourself: “Is it absolutely true that I am having a heart attack (worst case scenario); am I going to fall dead in the middle of this grocery checkout lineup with my skirt pulled up and my rattiest underwear exposed (angle)?”

(I am not trying to be amusing here.  During an attack, our mind comes up with the most outrageous notions which we immediately believe to be true.)

Since you do not know with absolute certainty that you are having a heart attack, and you cannot know what’s going to happen, your answer is “No!  It is absolutely not true.”

Step 5: Continue questioning every angle until your anxiety is reduced by your growing confidence that the worst case scenario is not going to happen.  Remember to try and keep your body relaxed.

It will take time, repetition, patience and self-compassion to master this practice.

That’s okay.  You have all the tools you need within you to be able to do this.

Like a short-distance runner practicing for the intensity of a marathon, you can build your endurance by utilizing these steps when you have general anxiety.  Then when an attack hits, you will be able to draw from memory (both mind and body) what to do.

I know you can do this.  I am rooting for you!

When you can stay centred amidst the chaos of your mind, body and environment—even for a few seconds–you feel more in control and experience just being.  It is during this state that you are able to identify what is best for you no matter what life throws you.

Doesn’t that just make you want to go out and have another attack?

Probably not.

Try this practice and see what happens.  Let me know how it goes!

The Zen of anxiety part II

In my next post (July 3rd), I will talk about how you can begin to recognize the connection between your thoughts and the feelings you fear, and how to face them.

I would love to hear from you about your experience with anxiety or panic attacks.  Please let me know what you have done to feel more centred in the comments below?

 

[Added July 13] Read The Zen of Anxiety Part II; Gently Facing Your Fears here.

 

Cartoon credit: Trish Hurtubise

 

Trish HurtubiseHi. I’m Trish Hurtubise…the founder, curator and an editor for Mental Health Talk. I love serving those who are relegated to the shadows by society by giving them a platform to share their voice and be seen and heard… hence my passion for working with all the wonderful people who have shared their stories and wisdom on MHT.

You may view all posts by me here.

I believe deeply in embracing what it means to be human. I believe trauma and/or emotional wounding is at the root of mental illness and what stops us from being who we really are.

With that in mind, I have a written a romance novel (under the name Tricia Best) that is a story of two young adults struggling to come together and embrace their sexuality when faced with PTSD and addiction. I wanted the book to have meaning as well as entertain the reader in true new adult romance fashion.

Please visit SayMyNameTheBook.com to read the synopsis and sign up for when the book with be release this fall (late 2016).

Much love to you.


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Comments

  • David T

    Trish,
    I am very impressed with this site. I especially like how you introduce humour into a difficult subject such as mental health. I really enjoy the art work. The art work for the Zen of Anxiety part one made me laugh and feel the discomfort of that work place at the same time

    I found your blog entry compelling. My experience with anxiety was and is rarely so dramatic, but I could easily relate on a couple of different levels. For one, the structure of the story made me want to read it to see how it turns out. I wanted to find out where this attack came from. Then, after you described the relevence of the experience, I wanted to know what you learned from it. It did not leave me wanting in the end. Both the writing style and the content communicates a sense of authority of someone who has experienced pain and has learned from it. The humour and the self depreciating aspects of the humour and the story do not take away from that authority but seem to add to it.
    Secondly, although my physical reaction to my anxiety is rarely as acute, I still find your advice very helpful. Because my anxiety effects me over a longer period of time, it is easier for me to ignore it and pretend it is not there. Your mixture of surrender and confrontation that is required to address it is interesting. I will try to put that into practice.
    Keep up the great work.

  • Trish

    Thank you David! Your feedback is wonderful. It is feedback like this that reminds me why I am doing this! Namaste.

  • Rick

    Great article, and a very useful process for identifying and quelling a real time anxiety attack.

    My anxiety stemmed from being stuck in highway traffic jams. Being a high achiever for most of my life meant that I pushed myself to get good grades, go to the best schools, get the best job, out work and outsmart my peers in the office, and never lose at whatever sport I was playing. Unfortunately, when you are always competing, it also gets transferred to the way you end up driving. Weaving in traffic, dangerous driving, excessive speeds. So naturally a traffic jam is the opposite of what you want to see.

    Without really noticing, it crept up on me in a subtle sort of way, the anxiety attack. The whole process would start with “the fear of being late for work” or being looked down at by my superiors for being 10 minutes late even though you had a super productive day in the office. So the spiral began, I would leave early for work unless I was running late, which was often, then I would resort to plan B which was aggressive driving. Looking back, it did not matter either way, after living in a few metropolis over my life, one thing you can never figure out is traffic. Some days it flows, most days its congestion. In my mind for some reason, I always thought that the road would always be wide open from my home to the office.

    Yes, a completely irrational and inflexible thought! I would freak out at the volume of cars, the congestion, the inability to get to where I wanted to get on MY OWN terms. What could I do? Listen to classical music? Didn’t help. Have the odd cigarette? Didn’t help, amde me more anxious. Eat a snack? Ok good distraction, only lasted for 5 minutes, now what? So this went on for years until one day out of the blue, I started to monitor my thoughts and write them down. You see, I never really questioned the panic attack or thought about the whole process, just one day it hit me, why are you feeling this way and what the heck are you so scared of?? So by writing down my feelings and thoughts, I would read them at night in my home. I saw a pattern that emerged, and it was definitely irrational. Tackling it from a logical point of view I realized that the traffic jams would not alter my life whether they were 15, or 30, or 45 minutes long. Sure, it was a hassle, but big cities are full of people trying to cumulatively do millions of things per day. I was just one of these people trying to do the few things I needed to – such as work, get paid, prosper, survive….just like everyone else. When I started thinking about things in this decentralized manner, the anxiety started to slowly decrease until it went away. Writing this quick blurb makes it seem like it was a short process, but the reality was something like 10-11 years

    Traffic ia a reality, but thankfully the anxiety is now gone. The bonus of working somewhere for a long time means that you have earned your stripes and people trust you, so the whole of idea of being early or late 10 minutes doesn’t change my life in a material way, that for me has been the biggest part of tackling the anxiety.

  • Trish

    Thank you Rick for telling us your story and sharing with us what you did to overcome your panic. Powerful stuff! I think a lot of people can relate to what you went through. I also really liked that you pointed out that it took 10-11 years to go through the process–I agree that it is important for people to understand there is no “over-night” cure. I have given myself permission to take as much time as I need to overcome my attacks. Each time it gets easier and easier. 🙂

  • mom

    When I read this post again I think of how far you have come and how hard you have worked for it.
    Great writing and I am very proud of you.
    Lots of love.

    • Trish

      Thanks Mom!!!!

  • Paul

    This made for riveting reading. Well done, I say. I found myself chortling, if not outright LOL’ing, now that, like you, I’m at the point where I can watch myself during “the attacks.” They can still make me shudder, and leave me drained afterward (a bit like a former student of mine who was epileptic). But I use them as learning experiences now. What I find remarkable is the connection between my mental state and my physical state. It’s like the mind is the pain-control center of the body. Wait a minute, the mind IS the center!! If my back, knees, head, arms, feet are sore, I start an internal inventory and send out the exploratory forces to find out WHAT’S GOING ON.

    This is a very helpful post for anyone at any stage, age or experience with panic and anxiety. Thanks!!

  • Doll

    Thank you so much for this article. My anxiety has been so high lately and I’ve been having anxiety About my anxiety! Ah! Your 5 steps really helped re center me and I’ll be using this technique often. I can’t wait to to read your next article.

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